New Year Bucket List

I don’t set New Years resolutions anymore, I just cant stick to something for a whole year -maybe thats why only 8% of people actually stick to them!

The new year, as cliche as it may sound IS such a great time to reflect and prioritise what you want from your life!! I’m so excited to begin 2018!!

Instead this year I am making a years Bucket List.  Smaller goals that i can tick off (love the ticking off part!!) throughout the year, but can also be up-dated/changed because priorities can change!! I have a work column, to do and to have column.

I have alot of work goals!! I want to up my freelance work as a VA and grow my business, so this column will be pretty full for me!! This year I’m determined to rock it!!!

The to do column is more fun-adventures I want to have and other things I want to do! Yes it will include the boring old ‘get healthy’ but also finally learning to play my ukulele and a family trip to Rotorua.

As for the to have.. disclaimer I Love Stuff!!! So I have to add it to my bucket list so I can make shit happen!!! New couch here I come.

I always say lets make this the best year so far! That way each year can keep getting better and better. 

2018 is my year!!! And it can be your year too xx



Making friends when your an adult is alot like dating.  You eye up the ladies in the room, decide who you think could be an awesome fit and attempt small talk. If this seems to go well you swap numbers and organize meeting for a drink.

It’s scary-and not as easy as you think! And if your new to a small town alot of the ladies have been friends forever and have there clicks sorted.

I have a million acquaintances, some great friends online and I’m lucky enough to have an amazing family and husband -but I dont have many really close girlfriends like the ones I see on T.V.  I watch those shows and feel like I’m really missing out on something everyone should have!

I see alot of women reaching out online looking for friends so it must be more common than I thought. Motherhood can be really isolating, I had my babies quite young and lost most of my friends in the prosess-and being a stay at home Mum means you lose the friends you’d make in the workplace.

Maybe they should make an App like Tinder- but for Mums looking for new friends! (They probably have-if you know what it’s called let my know!!)

So with the New Year approaching I’m really going to try and form closer friendships.  So reach out ladies!! With social media we never have to feel alone-and I’d love to connect with some like minded bitches xx

When School Is Hard

We feel so proud and beam with pride when our kids are doing well at school, we brag to our friends and family how well our baby is doing at school, but not all kids thrive straight away and it can make you feel like a crap parent.

My son is stupid smart! His principle told me last year he was lazy-the children sat down for a 2 hour exam and he finished early and went to leave, she asked him if he wanted to check his work-he said no. He bloody got 99% -without even trying! He is stupid smart and doesn’t even have to try. Yes I’m incredibly proud but I don’t think it has anything to with me- he’s just lucky.

I’ll never forget my first parent teacher meeting for my daughter, I breezed in expecting to hear how amazing she was (which was my previous experience with my son). The teacher looked at me and stuttered through our meeting, she doesn’t know what to do or why my daughter isn’t picking things up like the other kids.


I was so upset, didn’t know what to do and felt like a failure as a parent- I didn’t do anything different than I did with my son so I was very confused.

This is where a good school shows it’s weight in gold, and I was so lucky this was a dam good school!

We struggled through year 2 and I decided since her birthday was in March to keep her in year 2 for another year to hopefully catch up. This is when the school made it their mission to help my baby.  We applied for a literacy specialist and put her in groups and programs to build her confidence. I had meetings every few months to discuss her progress.  As her confidence grew so to did her progress. She was a painfully shy child who was not good socially and gosh that has changed now!

It was discovered she’s abit dyslexic and she needed glasses, that combined with working with the specialist I’m proud to say she’s ‘at standard’!!! Check out her writing👇 she started on the right hand side and wrote backwards and mirrored! I think it’s kind of genius


Every little victory has been that bit more special because she has overcome so much. I brag that my daughter is at standard and am so proud-but I would of been proud anyway because she kept improving, sometimes being in the top group isn’t as special as a kid who has overcome learning difficulties to just be average.

We were lucky, she could of easily been left behind, or be labeled a dumb kid. As a parent I was so worried and stressed, and I encourage you to talk to your school if your child’s struggling and work together if you can so they don’t fall through the radar. If our journey can help you in anyway reach out xIMG_20161221_094030_084

New Term/New You?

Schools Back!!

We are at the start of another school term after 2 glorious weeks of lie-ins (older kids perk) and slow starts and routine has gone all out the window-at my house at least.  Every time a new school term starts it feels kind of like New Years for parents- I set myself allsorts of new goals and promise myself I’m going to be more organised, get more shit done and make sure the kids do there homework before the last minute.

It might just be me who feels this way, but the new term feels like a fresh start, like New Years Eve but without the headache.

Much like New Years i start the term full of positivity and productivity before life gets in the way and its back to business as usual, all new goals and promises forgotten. So how do some people stick to their goals when the majority of us fall off the wagon so quickly? I wish I new the answer because I’m definitely one of those people who very rarely can finish what unstated.  Obviously the difference is they keep doing it, maybe some people are naturally more motivated than the rest of us.

The most effective way to do it, is to do it.

Amelia Earhart

So as both Amelia and Nike put it ‘Just do it’.  I have printed that quote out and put it on my wall to remind me to keep getting off my ass! This term I’m going to stick to my New Term Resolutions.  Here are my 5…


* Eat less and better

*Do one thing just for me each week

*make my kids do there homework before the night before its due

*Stay up-to-date with my study 😬

What are your resolutions for term 3? Hopefully some of them are just for you!



A little bit about me

Welcome to The Sweary Mum

I’m probably a lot like you -Blessed and Stressed

I thought I should introduce myself so I will follow suit to some of my favourite bloggers and share 10 facts about me

1. I’m married to my partner of 15 years

2. I have 2 gorgeous children-one of each💖 A boy who’s 11 and an 8 year old girl.

3. I am a proud Chihuahua Mum! Meet Taco👇


4. I’m a full-time student, I have nearly finished my Diploma in Business

5. I used to be a Librarian -I 💖 books

6.I love swearing, it makes me feel happy. My kids don’t swear-but they do think I’m hilarious

7. 6 years ago I had panic attacks and was diagnosed with panic disorder and GAD. Lots of therapy later and I’m fairly normal…

8. I had my first baby when I was 21 and lost myself in Motherhood-now they are older I’m trying to find myself again 😊

9. I love home design and fashion- my only current subscription is Your Home and Garden.

10. I run an online clothing store

I have wanted to start blogging for the last 2 years and have a head full of stories to share

Casey xx