We feel so proud and beam with pride when our kids are doing well at school, we brag to our friends and family how well our baby is doing at school, but not all kids thrive straight away and it can make you feel like a crap parent.
My son is stupid smart! His principle told me last year he was lazy-the children sat down for a 2 hour exam and he finished early and went to leave, she asked him if he wanted to check his work-he said no. He bloody got 99% -without even trying! He is stupid smart and doesn’t even have to try. Yes I’m incredibly proud but I don’t think it has anything to with me- he’s just lucky.
I’ll never forget my first parent teacher meeting for my daughter, I breezed in expecting to hear how amazing she was (which was my previous experience with my son). The teacher looked at me and stuttered through our meeting, she doesn’t know what to do or why my daughter isn’t picking things up like the other kids.
I was so upset, didn’t know what to do and felt like a failure as a parent- I didn’t do anything different than I did with my son so I was very confused.
This is where a good school shows it’s weight in gold, and I was so lucky this was a dam good school!
We struggled through year 2 and I decided since her birthday was in March to keep her in year 2 for another year to hopefully catch up. This is when the school made it their mission to help my baby. We applied for a literacy specialist and put her in groups and programs to build her confidence. I had meetings every few months to discuss her progress. As her confidence grew so to did her progress. She was a painfully shy child who was not good socially and gosh that has changed now!
It was discovered she’s abit dyslexic and she needed glasses, that combined with working with the specialist I’m proud to say she’s ‘at standard’!!! Check out her writing👇 she started on the right hand side and wrote backwards and mirrored! I think it’s kind of genius
Every little victory has been that bit more special because she has overcome so much. I brag that my daughter is at standard and am so proud-but I would of been proud anyway because she kept improving, sometimes being in the top group isn’t as special as a kid who has overcome learning difficulties to just be average.
We were lucky, she could of easily been left behind, or be labeled a dumb kid. As a parent I was so worried and stressed, and I encourage you to talk to your school if your child’s struggling and work together if you can so they don’t fall through the radar. If our journey can help you in anyway reach out x