My Weekend with High Rollers

What do the rich and successful have in common? Quite alot actually!

I was lucky enough to spend an amazing weekend away with friends at there Kawau weekend house, and after an amazing day on the boat, where I saw dolphins for the first time!! We started chatting about life and success and they shared with me how they got to where they are today, and what they deem the keys to their success.

When a millionaire tells you how to get your shit together you listen! And I’m going to share with you my key takeaways.

1. Make your bed every morning.

Easy right! But they all do it -something about a tidy-life tidy-mind. They all said when they’ve had a bad day you can guarantee when they got home the bed wasn’t made!

2. Write a LONG list of goals, and read them every morning.

One of them still had their original x3 pages from when they first began their journey! This one’s actually a little harder than it sounds. It’s not very often that we actually ask ourselves what we really want, especially at a x3 page level!! But this ones also fun, you get to really allow your self to dream. The goals should also be a bit scary and take you out of your comfort zone.

To take your goals a step-further, grab your current main goal and make a mind-map. Your goal in the middle of the page with all the little steps and things you need to do coming off it.

3. Write a to-do list every morning.

I couldn’t believe they did this every morning! They also said you have to word each item beginning with I will…. For example Today I will eat healthy and nourishing food, Today I will do the washing… You get it.

4. Add an Elephant every day.

What’s your elephant in the room? An elephant is something you need to do daily towards you goal, and you just grab one from your mind map! You need to do daily, consistent actions towards you’ll goals and before you know it you’ll be ticking them off. You need to add your elephant to your daily to-do list.

5. Treat Yo Self

Maybe one of my favs! This doesn’t mean spending money you don’t have, this just means allowing yourself to have the things you want. If your too cheap with yourself and always buying the budget version unstead of what you truley desire the universe will decide your cheap and don’t deserve the best. You get back what you put out! So make sure your telling the universe you deserve the best in life.

6. You are who you hang out with.

This is their last piece of advice, and I’m taking it as a compliment!

You better believe I’ve been making my bed! And I’ve started working on my goals and daily to-do lists. Doing the mind map makes my goals seem so much easier to manage and it’s easy to add an Elephant to my day.

Here’s to success guys!! It’s ours for the taking. I truley believe we can live the life we dream off – and my weekend away showed me alot of people actually do and that they’re more than happy to cheer me on and help me on my journey by sharing their keys to success.


New Year Bucket List

I don’t set New Years resolutions anymore, I just cant stick to something for a whole year -maybe thats why only 8% of people actually stick to them!

The new year, as cliche as it may sound IS such a great time to reflect and prioritise what you want from your life!! I’m so excited to begin 2018!!

Instead this year I am making a years Bucket List.  Smaller goals that i can tick off (love the ticking off part!!) throughout the year, but can also be up-dated/changed because priorities can change!! I have a work column, to do and to have column.

I have alot of work goals!! I want to up my freelance work as a VA and grow my business, so this column will be pretty full for me!! This year I’m determined to rock it!!!

The to do column is more fun-adventures I want to have and other things I want to do! Yes it will include the boring old ‘get healthy’ but also finally learning to play my ukulele and a family trip to Rotorua.

As for the to have.. disclaimer I Love Stuff!!! So I have to add it to my bucket list so I can make shit happen!!! New couch here I come.

I always say lets make this the best year so far! That way each year can keep getting better and better. 

2018 is my year!!! And it can be your year too xx


Making friends when your an adult is alot like dating.  You eye up the ladies in the room, decide who you think could be an awesome fit and attempt small talk. If this seems to go well you swap numbers and organize meeting for a drink.

It’s scary-and not as easy as you think! And if your new to a small town alot of the ladies have been friends forever and have there clicks sorted.

I have a million acquaintances, some great friends online and I’m lucky enough to have an amazing family and husband -but I dont have many really close girlfriends like the ones I see on T.V.  I watch those shows and feel like I’m really missing out on something everyone should have!

I see alot of women reaching out online looking for friends so it must be more common than I thought. Motherhood can be really isolating, I had my babies quite young and lost most of my friends in the prosess-and being a stay at home Mum means you lose the friends you’d make in the workplace.

Maybe they should make an App like Tinder- but for Mums looking for new friends! (They probably have-if you know what it’s called let my know!!)

So with the New Year approaching I’m really going to try and form closer friendships.  So reach out ladies!! With social media we never have to feel alone-and I’d love to connect with some like minded bitches xx

New Term/New You?

Schools Back!!

We are at the start of another school term after 2 glorious weeks of lie-ins (older kids perk) and slow starts and routine has gone all out the window-at my house at least.  Every time a new school term starts it feels kind of like New Years for parents- I set myself allsorts of new goals and promise myself I’m going to be more organised, get more shit done and make sure the kids do there homework before the last minute.

It might just be me who feels this way, but the new term feels like a fresh start, like New Years Eve but without the headache.

Much like New Years i start the term full of positivity and productivity before life gets in the way and its back to business as usual, all new goals and promises forgotten. So how do some people stick to their goals when the majority of us fall off the wagon so quickly? I wish I new the answer because I’m definitely one of those people who very rarely can finish what unstated.  Obviously the difference is they keep doing it, maybe some people are naturally more motivated than the rest of us.

The most effective way to do it, is to do it.

Amelia Earhart

So as both Amelia and Nike put it ‘Just do it’.  I have printed that quote out and put it on my wall to remind me to keep getting off my ass! This term I’m going to stick to my New Term Resolutions.  Here are my 5…


* Eat less and better

*Do one thing just for me each week

*make my kids do there homework before the night before its due

*Stay up-to-date with my study 😬

What are your resolutions for term 3? Hopefully some of them are just for you!



A little bit about me

Welcome to The Sweary Mum

I’m probably a lot like you -Blessed and Stressed

I thought I should introduce myself so I will follow suit to some of my favourite bloggers and share 10 facts about me

1. I’m married to my partner of 15 years

2. I have 2 gorgeous children-one of each💖 A boy who’s 11 and an 8 year old girl.

3. I am a proud Chihuahua Mum! Meet Taco👇


4. I’m a full-time student, I have nearly finished my Diploma in Business

5. I used to be a Librarian -I 💖 books

6.I love swearing, it makes me feel happy. My kids don’t swear-but they do think I’m hilarious

7. 6 years ago I had panic attacks and was diagnosed with panic disorder and GAD. Lots of therapy later and I’m fairly normal…

8. I had my first baby when I was 21 and lost myself in Motherhood-now they are older I’m trying to find myself again 😊

9. I love home design and fashion- my only current subscription is Your Home and Garden.

10. I run an online clothing store

I have wanted to start blogging for the last 2 years and have a head full of stories to share

Casey xx